An old classmate of mine once suffered a great loss – her boyfriend passed away. I don’t know the details, I never asked, but I saw how hard it was. And all I can do is speculate that it was unexpected and out of the blue. I don’t want to say much, as these words are perfect, but I remember thinking once that my life was hard and bad, until I realized she had it far worse.


“You can shed tears that he is gone,
or you can smile because he has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that he’ll come back,
or you can open your eyes and see all he’s left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him,
or you can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him only that he is gone,
or you can cherish his memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
be empty and turn your back.
Or you can do what he’d want:
smile, open your eyes, love and go on”

-David Harkins